Tiger Parenting As An Example Of Asian Parenting Style

Imagine being a young child without the right to have playdates and sleepovers. Amy Chua was a Yale law professor who is well-known for raising children. She also discussed the differences between Chinese parenting styles and shared her experiences with her daughters about tiger parenting. Many people believe that tiger-parenting is better for raising successful children. Amy Chua controversial parenting approach should not been encouraged as it creates a lot psychological problems. For example, they are constantly under pressure to perform to their standards and feel criticized for failing to do so.

The negative effects of tiger parenting on children’s brain development and their future adulthood can cause problems. A child’s mind can be put under tremendous pressure by tiger parents. Amy Chua’s Lulu and Sophia Chua, Sophia’s and Lulu’s little girls, were prohibited from going on playdates or attending school plays. They could not also watch TV, play computer games, go to sleepovers, have play dates, or attend school plays. Children in China will only be motivated to study if they have no other activities. Dr Jenny Grant Rankin (Educator, Author of Sharing Your Education Knowledge with the World) states that chinese children will feel compelled to learn and do only academic work. Chinese parents are known to spend more time with their children than they do doing boring activities every day. Chinese parents are known to spend a lot more time with their children than they do with their own children. The reason chinese children are so overweight is because their guardians in China believe that they owe everything to them. It is reasonable to understand that children in China should live their lives paying back their parents. This means they must obey their orders and do right by their parents. This is a crucial role in constraining children. Maladaptive compulsiveness is a condition that causes individuals to be very self-conscious and can lead to negative attitudes if things do not go according to plan. Having a lot of criticism can lead to depression and discouragement. Overparenting can lead to a feeling that you cannot do things on your own, or socially. Parents are often too intrusive and nosy with their children. Children can become self-critical if parents don’t include them in their lives. Dr. Su Yeoing Kim at the University of Texas is an excellent example. She tells us that most tigers, their mothers and their fathers, are good at cheat sheets. However, children can develop the fear that their intelligence is not sufficient. Because you worry about what others might think, you might become constantly ill before an exam or introduction. A 2014 paper on college students is another example. It is about college students who struggled to believe in themselves. They became more dependent on others, developed poor coping strategies and didn’t have the delicate abilities they needed throughout college. Ryan Hong, the study’s author, stated that parents who become too intrusive with their children may signal that they have a tendency to be more dependent on them, make poor coping strategies, and lack delicate aptitudes. Children fear making mistakes and are so scared of being wronged that their parents will be harshly critical. Children can become miserable if they look back at their past mistakes. Children expect themselves to perform to high standards and are willing to work hard to improve their performance. Children doubt the accuracy of a task and worry about how parents will react. Parents make their children feel disappointed by their mistakes. Parents’ intrusiveness can drive people insane in their attempts to reach unrealistic goals. This often leads to sadness and even depression. Your children may spend a lot of their time stressed and afraid about not living up to your standards. Children may become overly critical of themselves. This tendancy increases dramatically in children who have a higher self-criticism. It can lead to mental illness. Children can become trapped in anxiety, depression, chronic tension, stress, and misery to fulfill their parents’ expectations. Maladaptive perfectionism can also lead to poor self-esteem and tiger parenting. Low self-esteem can lead to insecurity and depression. Low self-esteem is often a result of parents not respecting their children’s opinions. You might reprimand a child for his or her inborn qualities, personality, and traits, but not praise them. This can cause a loss of self-esteem in children. Children feel they are incapable of being successful at everything. The parents analysis can make a child feel completely depressed and their confidence will be destroyed. A child who is criticized will look at each word in the context and consider the negligence. This is a crucial part of children losing self confidence. Children’s self-esteem is not something that authoritarian parents care about. They believe in strength and not weakness, and they continue to do so. They may become hostile and focus on their anger towards their parents. Chinese parents may prefer punishments to discipline. They believe their children should follow the rules regardless of circumstances. Children raised in an authoritarian family may feel it is difficult to make friends. They might become depressed and feel alone if they don’t have friends. Children will not have anyone to talk with about their feelings or concerns. They won’t be able to support and encourage them like friends. This would increase Child’s burden and make them feel less loved and supported. Some believe that tiger-parenting is the best method of raising successful children. Amy Chua’s book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”, contains these thoughts. Amy Chua writes about the differences in western parenting and chinese parental raising. Amy Chua also discusses her experiences with raising her two daughters. Amy Chua never allowed her children to have playdates with other kids or go to sleepovers. Instead, she encouraged them to work hard and earn good grades. Sophia and Lulu were both admitted to Harvard university, which is a top Ivy League school. Amy Chua’s daughters have been able to achieve great things, which shows that tiger parenting has paid off. Amy Chua’s critics thought Sophia and Lulu would be paranoid and obey machines, but Sophia, Lulu and all the rest were polite and modest and very successful. Lulu, Amy Chua’s second daughter, is another example. Lulu was about 7 years old when she tried to learn “The Little White Donkey” piano music. Lulu struggled to learn the piano piece and quit one day before her performance. Amy began to scream and threaten Lulu, but it did nothing to Lulu. Then suddenly, Lulu was able to do it. She played the song slowly and confidently, becoming faster and more proficient. Lulu was the victor despite Chua being harsh. Amy Chua’s Sophia stated that everyone remembers their mother telling them to throw their toys at the flames, but it was not a significant memory. She said that her childhood was happy. This is not what she meant. She was happy with the outcome of her childhood, even though it was difficult. Children learn how to deal with consequences from their actions through strict parenting. A child also learns to be responsible and make good decisions. Their parents set high expectations and encourage them to succeed. Although it may be difficult to do well in school, tiger parenting can help one become a great performer. Amy Chua’s parenting style worked for her daughters. However, research has shown that tigers can be very effective for students of asian descent and for those who are not americans. Dr Markus conducted a study that asked asian American students to reflect on their mothers after they failed to solve a problem. These students were more motivated than when they thought of themselves. But, it doesn’t mean it will work everywhere. Children are different, children are sensitive, and children from China are stronger to endure difficult parenting. Chua’s parents treated Chua in the same manner as she treated her daughters. It gave Chua a clear picture of what she needed. Chua’s approach is now widely accepted, but not recommended for others. Her daughters might struggle with some problems, and they may not be comfortable sharing them. It is important to not encourage tiger parenting as it can lead to many problems, including intense strain, self-criticism, and a decrease in self-esteem and confidence.